I like this, it’s not saying that people who have been treated badly are offensive because they complain…
We can enter into patterns of victim-hood which can be very painful and unproductive
“TIV aside, can there be a positive aspect of victimhood?
There could be, when victims gather together for some common purpose, like a social protest to raise the status of women. When I’m talking about victimhood, I’m talking about something that has aggression inside it, a lack of empathy and rumination. But when you express feelings of offense in an intimate relationship, it can be positive. Because in that situation you don’t want to hide your feelings. You want to be sincere. You want to be authentic. So if always you’re trying to please, if all the time you say, “No, everything is fine, I wasn’t offended,” that doesn’t help the relationship. I think it’s very important to authentically express your negative feelings inside meaningful relations, because then the other side can be more impacted and you can have a real exchange.”Why People Feel Like Victims – Issue 99: Universality – Nautilus