I think once you get into an argument on Facebook you are wasting your time, if you set out to win, you are wasting your time
How to compose a successful critical commentary:
You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.” You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement). You should mention anything you have learned from your target. Only then are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism. — From Intuition Pumps and Other Tools for Thinking This ai think what they are calling "Steelmanning"?
It seems reasonable not to yell at people, to appreciate (and even read) their input
Julian Burnside talks about alienation and violence https://theconversation.com/julian-burnside-alienation-to-alien-nation-18290